Sometimes a relationship needs time for focused attention. A private couples retreat can often make a profound difference for your relationship — much more quickly than in the regular format of weekly session. We’ll use the same effective couples therapy approach (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) that helps couples create or rebuild strong, lasting, loving connection, just in a format that will get results in days rather than months.
Who’s It For?
Intensives or retreats are ideal for couples who:
♦ Are in crisis and need to get fast results
♦ Don’t have time in your busy schedules for weekly sessions
♦ Prefer to have focused time for your relationship without the distractions of daily life
♦ Are in long-distance relationships or travel frequently
♦ Have concerns about privacy due to high-profile jobs
♦ Prefer to do couples therapy in a retreat location — ours or one of your choosing
♦ Don’t have access to expert couples therapy in your location
♦ Couples of all sexual orientations and genders are warmly welcome, and we have extensive experience working with a diverse clientele.
Affair Repair Couples Therapy Retreat
Communication for Connection Retreat
Strong Start Premarital Counseling Retreat
Discernment Counseling Retreat (for couples where one or both are ambivalent about trying to heal the relationship)
What Happens at a Private Couples Therapy Retreat?
The description below reflects what to expect for a couples therapy retreat focused on repair & reconnection. Premarital retreats and discernment retreats follow a different format and have different goals (check out those pages for details).
The first day together, we’ll take some time to dive into your history, and the reason for you choosing to do an intensive now. You’ll meet with the therapist together and one-on-one as part of our assessment (in addition to the questionnaires that you’ll complete ahead of time). We’ll identify your challenges and strengths and goals, and begin with helping you two get onto the same team to address any current or longstanding problems. Our emphasis is on getting to root issues so we can help you create positive, lasting change, and this means we’ll help you talk about your inner experiences in a new way, and begin to get curious about the other person’s too.
With a direct focus on your goals and unique situation, your therapist be working with you in the 9-step model of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy — the world’s leading approach to couples therapy and lasting relationship repair. Depending on your needs, other tools may be incorporated as well, to help support you in getting where you want to go, and addressing the core dynamics that need attention.
We’ll be bringing our expertise in how to help couples rediscover and recreate secure connection, asking you to bring your courage and an open mind. Old hurts will be addressed and put into context, and we’ll help you start talking to each other in a new way that leads to greater understanding and deeper connection. What this means in practical terms is that we’ll be helping you both take some risks to listen and share with each other in a new way, to change the music of the dance you’ve been doing, and to learn some new moves. If you’re someone who’s not in touch with their emotions, we’ll help you find language for your experience. We believe that each person’s actions and feelings have a logic to them, sometimes hidden and occasionally out-of-date, but that people can always reconnect to the best themselves and that change is possible.
The final day of your private couples counseling retreat will continue the work of the previous days, and also include integration to help you take home your new gains. Followup resources will be suggested, and we’ll schedule a time to connect by phone or videoconference for a post-retreat check-in. We’re committed to helping your retreat be of lasting value to your relationship, and supporting your transition back to “real life”. We’ll celebrate your gains and new discoveries and set intentions about how to carry the work forward when you return home.
What Happens Between Our Sessions?
The afternoons and evenings are intentionally open for you to relax and enjoy the bounty of southern Vermont, and to absorb and reflect on the powerful work you’re doing together. We can help you schedule a couples massage, find a good hiking trail or get ideas about where to have a nice meal. Some people like to go skiing or kayaking, cozy up with a book or a journal, take a nap, or explore the many galleries or antique shops nearby. Enjoy a good dinner and take time to enjoy each other. You’ll be doing hard work during our time together. Afternoons and evenings are your time to recharge and renew. Occasionally, we’ll give optional exercises to do or videos to watch, but your “down time” is actually an important part of the retreat and helps you to integrate all that you’re doing.
Who Would We Work With?
InnerWell’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Intensives (also called Private Couples Retreats) are offered at this time primarily by Director/Founder Rachel Zamore, LMFT, a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and a Certified Discernment Counselor & Trainer. Rachel has years of experience supporting couples and individuals in reconnecting with the best in themselves, and she delights in helping to create a safe and welcoming space where both people can feel understood and where both people can get back onto the same team to strengthen their relationship. Several other senior couples therapists at InnerWell are also available for private retreats, and you will each have an opportunity to talk with your potential therapist prior to finalizing your retreat.
InnerWell’s private couples therapy retreats (or “couples therapy intensives”) take place at our location in beautiful southern Vermont, or at a North America retreat location of your choosing. Just 3.5 hours from NYC and 2 hours from Boston, Brattleboro, Vermont is a popular destination — a “large small town” known for its quirky charm, lively arts scene, fabulous farmers’ market, and year-round outdoor recreation opportunities.
Our private 3-day retreats begin on Wednesdays or Fridays. Weekday retreats are offered at a discounted rate. Extended retreats (4-day and 5-day) may be arranged by request.
Schedule Option A
Day 1: 9:00am – 11:30am & 4:30-6:00pm
Day 2: 9:00am – 1:00pm
Day 3: 9:00am – 11:30am & 4:30-6:00pm
Schedule Option B
Day 1: 9:00am – 1:00pm
Day 2: 9:00am – 1:00pm
Day 3: 9:00am – 1:00pm
The fee for a private couples therapy intensive at our location in Vermont varies, depending on length and the therapist providing the retreat. Fees include the therapy, and do not include accommodations, meals or travel. If you wish to have a private couples therapy retreat at a resort or retreat center of your choosing, or another offsite location, please contact us for pricing and requirements.
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